Was today thinking on a random status message...In order to live a long life, we need to eat healthy, give up all vices, no drinks or smokes, no late nights, safe sex with a single partner, no cholesterol filled oily food, no spur of the moment non-veg food. Guess the thought came post yesterday's marathon session of eating at Paradise, MOD, Theobroma's, Cafe Churchill, Moshe's, and the movie at Sterling cinema...While, giving up the vices would be a healthier life, as a young single male, probably the boredom of not doing anything with your time would kill you instead at an early age..!!
The watchman and I had an argument about late nights and how talking to women is not allowed coz it conveys a bad image. me and society seem to have such radically opposite views. Ideally the 2 should co-exist peacefully as i dont aim to interfere in anyone else's life and ideally i dont want anyone to do so in mine..Unfortunately, because of third party bad mistakes, my generation had got a bad name and we are all labeled as 'spoilt brat young bachelors'... in some cases, its just honestly about just doing SOMETHING, ANYTHING just to kill time before time kills you!!..
The priest in his sermon today somehow managed to touch on this same very topic today upon how the devil convinces us to take a short term view and look to enjoy as much as possible on earth so that our souls would go to hell...it is really essential to believe in the concept of heaven coz without that concept, there would be no concept of good or evil and thus everyone would be free to do as they please without reflecting on the effect they have on others...there are unfortunately very few individuals who truly believe in being good without a vested interest....for the rest of us, we need to believe that there would be a return with our sacrifices now being paid off for by eternal bliss in heaven!!
Sunday, November 28, 2010
Thursday, September 30, 2010
The Ayodhya verdict
there were a lot of opinions abt today's verdict. One in particular that i liked was Aristo's and Sankho's (shared view on FB) :
I remember-in school a big bully came and took away my bar of chocolate. We fought. I hit him. He hit me, more than I could hit him.
And then along came the teacher who taught us about reconciliation and compromise, divided it between the 2 of us and sent us our ways.
Was I happy with the decision? No. Because his share of chocolate was never meant for him. It was always mine to begin with.
My take on the same is its difficult to separate out theology from fact, at some point of time , the 2 intersperse and you cant tell which is what, its like Leo's wife in Inception who loses the ability to tell the dream sequences from reality. The real people who know the truth are the man who lived in those times coz eventually history is written by the victor. In our times, its essential to maintain peace and harmony and if this was the best way to achieve it then so be it.
At the end of the day, i am just happy with the half day that we were awarded!! :)
And then along came the teacher who taught us about reconciliation and compromise, divided it between the 2 of us and sent us our ways.
Was I happy with the decision? No. Because his share of chocolate was never meant for him. It was always mine to begin with.
My take on the same is its difficult to separate out theology from fact, at some point of time , the 2 intersperse and you cant tell which is what, its like Leo's wife in Inception who loses the ability to tell the dream sequences from reality. The real people who know the truth are the man who lived in those times coz eventually history is written by the victor. In our times, its essential to maintain peace and harmony and if this was the best way to achieve it then so be it.
At the end of the day, i am just happy with the half day that we were awarded!! :)
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
a cissy thought
How is it that 6 terms of barely 2-3 months each , all have separate memories and moments attached that continue to haunt my dreams, while the last 18 months just seem to have flown by in a jiffy with absolutely no re-collection of anything other than a few good weekends?
Thursday, August 26, 2010
That 70's show
i been on a that 70's show spree lately...finished 5 seasons in abt a month.. the show has everything...the amount of drama that the show has discussed without losing its comic charm is amazing....right from the first season, if u consider the kind of really serious issues that are considered...on the macro level, post vietnam, american soldiers trauma, unemployment following the collapse of american army and nixon gate...on a personal issue, how a family deals with day to day problems of lack of money with father losing his job, mother working triple shifts to keep the fires burning, strained relations between father and son to enforce discipline, hippie culture displayed via smokes and drinks, loosely moralled hippie sister who's a major nympho , the girl next door, pre-marital sex and early pregnancy, how couples turn to desperate measures to save marraige, effects that parents splitting up have on their kids, survival of the kids who live on the streets, cheating amongst teenagers....man,,,,thats a long list and i am just about getting started!!!
Neways, this is my tribute to a GREAT show which can actually manage to be ultra humourous whilst depicting such major problems both in history and society that shaped american culture and the world at large
n now back to season 6 of that 70's show!!
Neways, this is my tribute to a GREAT show which can actually manage to be ultra humourous whilst depicting such major problems both in history and society that shaped american culture and the world at large
n now back to season 6 of that 70's show!!
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
the habit of reading
Nothing beats a good read. the sheer thrill of a well written book for me beats the shit out of watching a movie any day..the best thing about the book, is that there is so much activity involved...ur hand exercise as they turn the page, the eyes exercise as they focus and move on diff areas and most of ur imagination runs wild as u can try and picture imagination...beats sitting n staring at a screen ne day...best thing is u can picture urself in situations and u can actually live the experience so as to speak.
just finished a book called bombay rains , bombay girls...a really good refreshing read...not like the normal candy floss teenage senseless books that seem to be aplenty nowadays..has a strong backbone of a story and tells a interesting tale whilst conveying several messages that society wud do good to follow, cud absolutely identify with the core theme of the book...
just finished a book called bombay rains , bombay girls...a really good refreshing read...not like the normal candy floss teenage senseless books that seem to be aplenty nowadays..has a strong backbone of a story and tells a interesting tale whilst conveying several messages that society wud do good to follow, cud absolutely identify with the core theme of the book...
Monday, August 9, 2010
the first sex talk
I am sure that everyone in the world, has that awkward moment in adolescence where in whilst watching tv along with ur parents very innocently, suddenly out of nowhere comes a sex scene / scantily clothed women and suddenly every1 looking elsewhere and coughing praying for the moment to pass by quickly... luckily for me my parents have a relatively open view to things ... i never felt embarassed abt watching baywatch even when Yasmine Bleeth or Pamela Anderson ran in slow motion along the beach coz it was just a normal thing, nothing to be really embarrassed abt...Indeed i never understood what the fuss was about when it came to watching Baywatch for a long while...
However, even my folks drew the line at long sex scenes...i remember my mum's reaction to me watching Titanic and later French kiss when the sex scenes came in....she almost screamed at me for watching blue movies.. :)
neways, thanks to a much older group of fellow travelers in my school bus, me was wise abt the birds and the bees very early probably by the 5th standard... later, having sex talks by doctors in school meant that i had the education by the best authorized people as well...i guess i should really be thankful to Deep Vihar for the number of sex talks that they organised...i remember pretty much 2 in a year for 6 years!!
coming forward to the first time, i spoke to my dad, it was at the age of 14..a frd of mine had been receiving crank calls from a guy who said that he wanted to sleep with her...at which time i advised her that she needed to report the no. to the cops, post getting a caller id ..dad hearing my part of the conversation asked me what it was all abt...told him that a guy was bothering a frd saying that he wanted to have sex wid her..dad was so shocked at me uttering the word 'sex' , he immediately went away from the room and 5 mins later i found him reading the bible!!!!!!
that incident still has me in splits...how my dad followed up trying to talk to me abt sex, 2 days later after having a few hushed whispered conversations wid mom is another joke altogether...i rem the akwardness wid which he ambled ard in my room for abt 5 mins before finally asking me whether i knew abt it...to which i obviously said yes mentioning the doctors who had already given us several talks,..dad gave a huge sigh of relief and almost ran away...hehe....kickass!!!
I hope i have an easier time of it when it comes to my turn to impart knowledge!!!
However, even my folks drew the line at long sex scenes...i remember my mum's reaction to me watching Titanic and later French kiss when the sex scenes came in....she almost screamed at me for watching blue movies.. :)
neways, thanks to a much older group of fellow travelers in my school bus, me was wise abt the birds and the bees very early probably by the 5th standard... later, having sex talks by doctors in school meant that i had the education by the best authorized people as well...i guess i should really be thankful to Deep Vihar for the number of sex talks that they organised...i remember pretty much 2 in a year for 6 years!!
coming forward to the first time, i spoke to my dad, it was at the age of 14..a frd of mine had been receiving crank calls from a guy who said that he wanted to sleep with her...at which time i advised her that she needed to report the no. to the cops, post getting a caller id ..dad hearing my part of the conversation asked me what it was all abt...told him that a guy was bothering a frd saying that he wanted to have sex wid her..dad was so shocked at me uttering the word 'sex' , he immediately went away from the room and 5 mins later i found him reading the bible!!!!!!
that incident still has me in splits...how my dad followed up trying to talk to me abt sex, 2 days later after having a few hushed whispered conversations wid mom is another joke altogether...i rem the akwardness wid which he ambled ard in my room for abt 5 mins before finally asking me whether i knew abt it...to which i obviously said yes mentioning the doctors who had already given us several talks,..dad gave a huge sigh of relief and almost ran away...hehe....kickass!!!
I hope i have an easier time of it when it comes to my turn to impart knowledge!!!
Sunday, August 8, 2010
the pursuit of happiness
remember the times where there were a million of us, a zillion possible things to do and we cudnt coz we were broke and had no money to do it...? and yet, we just as easily found a simpler substitute coz when u existed in a big group then the fun happens neways and the activity is secondary...
and today, we have the money , and sometimes even the time, but not the people to do things with,...not everyone's free of together at the same time and things can be just inconvenient.
worst of all , the substitutes are also become so lame..today, i had a haircut, shave and a massage just coz i had nthg better to do...actually haircuts are like the new past time with chitresh too periodically going in for haircuts to kill time...maybe it cud be like the new fun activity that no1 ever thought abt....hair cut for kicks..!!
and today, we have the money , and sometimes even the time, but not the people to do things with,...not everyone's free of together at the same time and things can be just inconvenient.
worst of all , the substitutes are also become so lame..today, i had a haircut, shave and a massage just coz i had nthg better to do...actually haircuts are like the new past time with chitresh too periodically going in for haircuts to kill time...maybe it cud be like the new fun activity that no1 ever thought abt....hair cut for kicks..!!
Friday, August 6, 2010
the Xander zone
The Xander zone is the zone of absolute concentration.its also called as being in a state of zen. its a term that was coined by Merv after watching Vin Diesel in XXX.
He used it to describe how he could play carrom better whilst he was in the Xander zone.
I seem to hit my xander zone whilst walking. studies worked best for me while i was walking within the room. it helped me concentrate. now, breaks to just take a walk in between intense work sessions help me re-focus.
So how do u hit ur xander zone?? :)
He used it to describe how he could play carrom better whilst he was in the Xander zone.
I seem to hit my xander zone whilst walking. studies worked best for me while i was walking within the room. it helped me concentrate. now, breaks to just take a walk in between intense work sessions help me re-focus.
So how do u hit ur xander zone?? :)
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
The dexterity of the human mind
This all started with a single comment by a brand manager. Whilst talking about the performance of a brand he made a comment that please analyze performance of my brand on a long term annual basis trend for the last 5 years. if we consider month on month or quarterly data than e may say aberrent fluctuations which may cause shifting of focus to trivial issues. long term trends are more difficult to explain and result on more adequate focus..
This single comment led me into to think in so many different ways that i was just amazed at the dexterity of the human brain. a single comment can lead to such intense thought , its just crazy.. Parag's comment comes to mind here (while hiking at Karnala) , when he was talking about how humans just perceive the path amongst rocky stones and just choose the best convenient path to take which would take robotics engineers years of programming to master into robots..
coming back to long term perspective...this comment can be applied into our lives as well.. Issues that are current seem so long to tackle. a failed relationship, death / loss of a loved one, failure in exams, loss of a job, etc..etc.. just seem like such massive problems..But you consider this troubles that plague you for a month or so or maximum a year,in a lifetime of 60 odd years plus, it just seems so trivial...!!
You tend to lose focus on the bigger picture if you go about trying to resolve the smaller issues..its all about the big picture in life and achieving the overall long terms goals..Its a long way to the top!!
Computers have been around for about last 20 years , the television for close to 100 years, the age of reading and writing for about 2000 years, civilised human beings for maybe about 4000 years..Homa Sapiens for GOK, need to consult google for that or my old history/science text books fro school. the point is that dinosaurs were around for 65 million years and they died out millions of years ago..we human beings ourselves are just a small speck in the large universe..at the rate we are using our resources, that speck appears to be fading pretty rapidly as well.its scary to think about life beyond the next 30 years as resources get scarcer and population increases..the kind of wars that ill be fought for resources..the movie , 'The Book of Eli' may turn out to be rather prophetic after all..
Even had we had the knowledge of how many years we get to live, it would still be scary.. It would make us apprehensive as we approach our expiry date, so to speak and maybe we would not be able to enjoy the days as we ought..me thinks death ought to be a sweet and quick release rather then a long prolonged battle..
Is there life after death? a question that has plagued me forever and probably mankind as well.. Being a Christian, all i can think as a answer to this, is a response quoted in the Bible in the Book of Job when Job questions God about the various sufferings sent his way.. The reason why God is God and why we worship him is the fact that he has the answer to all the questions that human beings pose and just cannot answer..and probably would not be able to handle even if we could....................
This single comment led me into to think in so many different ways that i was just amazed at the dexterity of the human brain. a single comment can lead to such intense thought , its just crazy.. Parag's comment comes to mind here (while hiking at Karnala) , when he was talking about how humans just perceive the path amongst rocky stones and just choose the best convenient path to take which would take robotics engineers years of programming to master into robots..
coming back to long term perspective...this comment can be applied into our lives as well.. Issues that are current seem so long to tackle. a failed relationship, death / loss of a loved one, failure in exams, loss of a job, etc..etc.. just seem like such massive problems..But you consider this troubles that plague you for a month or so or maximum a year,in a lifetime of 60 odd years plus, it just seems so trivial...!!
You tend to lose focus on the bigger picture if you go about trying to resolve the smaller issues..its all about the big picture in life and achieving the overall long terms goals..Its a long way to the top!!
Computers have been around for about last 20 years , the television for close to 100 years, the age of reading and writing for about 2000 years, civilised human beings for maybe about 4000 years..Homa Sapiens for GOK, need to consult google for that or my old history/science text books fro school. the point is that dinosaurs were around for 65 million years and they died out millions of years ago..we human beings ourselves are just a small speck in the large universe..at the rate we are using our resources, that speck appears to be fading pretty rapidly as well.its scary to think about life beyond the next 30 years as resources get scarcer and population increases..the kind of wars that ill be fought for resources..the movie , 'The Book of Eli' may turn out to be rather prophetic after all..
Even had we had the knowledge of how many years we get to live, it would still be scary.. It would make us apprehensive as we approach our expiry date, so to speak and maybe we would not be able to enjoy the days as we ought..me thinks death ought to be a sweet and quick release rather then a long prolonged battle..
Is there life after death? a question that has plagued me forever and probably mankind as well.. Being a Christian, all i can think as a answer to this, is a response quoted in the Bible in the Book of Job when Job questions God about the various sufferings sent his way.. The reason why God is God and why we worship him is the fact that he has the answer to all the questions that human beings pose and just cannot answer..and probably would not be able to handle even if we could....................
Friday, July 30, 2010
Probability theory
was just thinking today..if condom companies claim a 97% prevention success rates for condoms, the corrollary would be that you would probably hit the bulls eye 3 times in every 100 times you have sex...!! wow...that should start a whole new cycle of counting ... :)
Thursday, July 29, 2010
2 points of view
Its the season to be searching for new jobs. A lot of my frds are busy hunting for new opputunities..several have switched , several are hunting. Makes me wonder if its time to move on from what i m doing myself. Question arises, where to from here?
Think I am enjoying what i am doing right now, dont know how much overall career sense and growth i would have made was i else where but at least i am having fun with what i am doing. Hindsight is 20-20 of course so I would never be able to figure out what i am doing unless it is with retrospect. :)
Got 2 diff points of view on salary recently. a frd went on and on about how we were under paid, over-worked and hardly have any savings whatsoever to talk about despite leading an extremely sedate lifestyle.
then met a friendly cab driver who was sharing his experiences whilst in the midst of traffic,asked me how i liked my job and i was like its gud other then the compensation. he said, kyu, aapko 10K toh milta hoga,
kinda brought things in perspective, all our needs and wants just grow as we move from one income class to another...dont think there is ever a satisfactory salary point..all we do is create more needs and requirements due to which we dont ever seem to have enough...guess , working to make ur current job a happy job to be at is a million times better than hunting for that one elusive job that would be perfect in every way..,especially when u already like several things about it already.......
Think I am enjoying what i am doing right now, dont know how much overall career sense and growth i would have made was i else where but at least i am having fun with what i am doing. Hindsight is 20-20 of course so I would never be able to figure out what i am doing unless it is with retrospect. :)
Got 2 diff points of view on salary recently. a frd went on and on about how we were under paid, over-worked and hardly have any savings whatsoever to talk about despite leading an extremely sedate lifestyle.
then met a friendly cab driver who was sharing his experiences whilst in the midst of traffic,asked me how i liked my job and i was like its gud other then the compensation. he said, kyu, aapko 10K toh milta hoga,
kinda brought things in perspective, all our needs and wants just grow as we move from one income class to another...dont think there is ever a satisfactory salary point..all we do is create more needs and requirements due to which we dont ever seem to have enough...guess , working to make ur current job a happy job to be at is a million times better than hunting for that one elusive job that would be perfect in every way..,especially when u already like several things about it already.......
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
hitting 25..
just completed yet another flying visit home..yet again coming back wid feelings of nostalgia...was teni's wedding dis time round...a whole lotta fun catching up wid the whole family...been ages since the 5 of us plus alex, and the kids made ne trips together newhr as a family together...cant even re-call the last time that happened in fact...have to really scroll back the years to do that..
had an even rarer thing occur when i spent so much time wid the bro...now that definitely was a first...of course a bit forced considering that no 1 else was ard and b-coz we did drive back to bombay together but even then i never re-call ever having such a long or eased out conversation...
was also nice to remember several events from the past and re-calling all the cousins and ppl who have played their part in specific times of my life shaping me for who i am in in whatever positive and negative connotations...Ganha, Nadi, Nigel, Heist, Nunu, Michael, Rance,Velva, Suck, Cavin...its amazing what a huge freaking family i have...was also remembering the mother's side and re-calling all the folks who arent that visible any more like Alice and her sisters
one of the most endearing moments this weekend was when in Ponda, the 7 sisters and the rest were all singing songs in wishing good luck to the newly married couple...that really rolled back the years and also of course watching dada and mama singing etc...
years have really rolled by...all dis kids have already completed grad and are even working..!! Clinton, Alroy, Cleona, Beloris...wow...
its been an easy ride so far...the goals were well defined...study hard..do well in exams,,,worked towards completing engg and then the MBA to get a gud job...now that i am in a job , need to re-define my goals and aspirations again...do i wanna stick ard and aim for the presidency, so i search hard core and go back to the roots, do i wanna settle here or there...takin care of the ageing folks, curing a bit of the loneliness that arises now and then ...etc..etc...its time to set and or re-define priorities ..... The Quarter life crisis is well and truly on!!
had an even rarer thing occur when i spent so much time wid the bro...now that definitely was a first...of course a bit forced considering that no 1 else was ard and b-coz we did drive back to bombay together but even then i never re-call ever having such a long or eased out conversation...
was also nice to remember several events from the past and re-calling all the cousins and ppl who have played their part in specific times of my life shaping me for who i am in in whatever positive and negative connotations...Ganha, Nadi, Nigel, Heist, Nunu, Michael, Rance,Velva, Suck, Cavin...its amazing what a huge freaking family i have...was also remembering the mother's side and re-calling all the folks who arent that visible any more like Alice and her sisters
one of the most endearing moments this weekend was when in Ponda, the 7 sisters and the rest were all singing songs in wishing good luck to the newly married couple...that really rolled back the years and also of course watching dada and mama singing etc...
years have really rolled by...all dis kids have already completed grad and are even working..!! Clinton, Alroy, Cleona, Beloris...wow...
its been an easy ride so far...the goals were well defined...study hard..do well in exams,,,worked towards completing engg and then the MBA to get a gud job...now that i am in a job , need to re-define my goals and aspirations again...do i wanna stick ard and aim for the presidency, so i search hard core and go back to the roots, do i wanna settle here or there...takin care of the ageing folks, curing a bit of the loneliness that arises now and then ...etc..etc...its time to set and or re-define priorities ..... The Quarter life crisis is well and truly on!!
Sunday, April 25, 2010
The Blogger Blogs again
feeling a lil disturbed and a lil depressed... have a bad feeling about quite a few IPL matches...things in several matches looked suspicious..games looked to be delibrately scripted..and several matches looked as if a puppeteer was pulling strings...d match fixing scandal was what put me off the game for ages in the early part of this decade...this may put a permanent end to following the game for me..at least as a fan who believes in a team.turning into a cynic who thinks tat all matches are fixed.. the joy of playing the game seems to have died..everything just seems to be done purely for commercial business..
have been just meandering thru life as usual..dis month has certainly been an expensive one..2.5 times my normal expenses for the month..!! my savings have taken an absolute beating.. :(
on the brighter side, beginning to catch up again with old friends...ryan staying here and Sid and Savio being around has certainly kindled up a few engg memories and also helped bring home that much closer
having the folks ard was pretty cool too..family is the backbone to all survival i wud say..truly god's gift
my team, liverpool seem to be doing very badly recently..hope they can turn things ard in d europa..
its been 5 now...havent had that feeling though for ne 1 else other than the first...just wish dat i cud feel it again.............life offers diff paths, d one which u take cud make so much diff to d end result......
have been just meandering thru life as usual..dis month has certainly been an expensive one..2.5 times my normal expenses for the month..!! my savings have taken an absolute beating.. :(
on the brighter side, beginning to catch up again with old friends...ryan staying here and Sid and Savio being around has certainly kindled up a few engg memories and also helped bring home that much closer
having the folks ard was pretty cool too..family is the backbone to all survival i wud say..truly god's gift
my team, liverpool seem to be doing very badly recently..hope they can turn things ard in d europa..
its been 5 now...havent had that feeling though for ne 1 else other than the first...just wish dat i cud feel it again.............life offers diff paths, d one which u take cud make so much diff to d end result......
Thursday, March 4, 2010
recap
its been freaking ages since I been pondering..trying to catch up with all the major changes that have happened in the days gone by..a LOTTTT of work, putting in 10-14 hour days in office, working on every weekend, a new year, made some new friends, got in and out of a relationship, handling new responsibilities at work, made a few more Goa trips, got the folks to come over to Mumbai once, made a sexed out Goa road trip that ended up getting me totally nostalgic and homesick...
the last few days have been sorta awakening for me...18 till I die would be the policy that i would love to believe in, would love to have led a peter pan existence..unfortunately or fortunately, we don't have that option..change is constant and life goes on..time and tide wait for no man and only those who evolve along with time win the race that is life.. Wow! I just strung a line of the worst cliches, i have read! :) but beginning to understand the pressures that come with being an adult and how to accept the responsibilities and requirements that come with it. The trick as I am beginning to understand it, is looking for the silver lining. and there always is a silver lining for everything that adds that extra bit of joy and spice to life. Its essentially the age old debate of the glass half full or the glass half empty debate..
lot of changes that are gonna happen soon, friends moving into new locations and new jobs, new friends coming into the city, moving house and finding new places, mixing around and making new friends, all of which I am looking forward to b'coz after all while life's tough , I am tougher..and when the going gets rough, i ll just get rough... :)
the last few days have been sorta awakening for me...18 till I die would be the policy that i would love to believe in, would love to have led a peter pan existence..unfortunately or fortunately, we don't have that option..change is constant and life goes on..time and tide wait for no man and only those who evolve along with time win the race that is life.. Wow! I just strung a line of the worst cliches, i have read! :) but beginning to understand the pressures that come with being an adult and how to accept the responsibilities and requirements that come with it. The trick as I am beginning to understand it, is looking for the silver lining. and there always is a silver lining for everything that adds that extra bit of joy and spice to life. Its essentially the age old debate of the glass half full or the glass half empty debate..
lot of changes that are gonna happen soon, friends moving into new locations and new jobs, new friends coming into the city, moving house and finding new places, mixing around and making new friends, all of which I am looking forward to b'coz after all while life's tough , I am tougher..and when the going gets rough, i ll just get rough... :)
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